Transforming Trueness – Voice (In the connections, voice clears)

And the deepest of reality,
an original endowment,
is the intricate truth
of who one really is.

−verse 4 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

What is your service in this world?

In your own truth and reality, your answer is a simple complexity. We are not simple beings, but it seems we are on a continual journey to simply be. Along the way we are indeed preyed upon by a busyness formed in the confusion of a transforming collective presence in this 21st Century.

There is a collective transformation in process. One major contributor to complexity is a collective unconsciousness to what is really going on. And this is where the individual consciously and powerfully breaks into the scene.

The World Needs You!

Your unique, individual voice is a dynamic entrance into a collective, transforming awareness.

In the recent evolution of my Coaching Model I was reminded that I have done nothing on my own. The freeing of my Trueness has been a collective−and truly collaborative−effort. My richest blessings are consistently held and carried by those who lovingly give of their presence. These connections walk with me in the art of holding. It is in, and with, these connections that voice clears.

In the connections, voice clears. Yes, and this begins in the internal journey as you reconnect with original source−your authentic self from the beginning. Do not limit your thinking in a too-narrow definition of connections. Certainly there are those inner connections we make when clarity presents itself. And there are those connections deepened on the outside as, in a new confidence, we clear the way for our own voice to be heard through our service in a needy world.

Your unique resonance needs the reverberation from these connections. Such reflection reassures the inner timbre. The freeing of your truth is at once joyful and painful.

“We have to leave the garden, so to speak. It is this movement out and back between the loneliness and desperation of the false self and the fullness of the True Self that is the process of transformation.” −Richard Rhor

I cannot offer any advice on avoiding the discomfort of transition nor the pain that comes with transformation. Again, we are always being shaped by forces internal and external and by influences individual and collective.

What I can ensure is this: If you walk with others and allow them to walk with you−letting your voice free, and hearing the other−you will know the Art of Holding in the deepest of reality.

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Transforming Trueness – Desire & Intent (Shaping Can be Painful)

Suffering it may seem
and so suffering it is;
but impairing it is not.

−verse 2 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

The life sciences perpetually teach us about the natural, life-giving tension of transition, and therefore transformation. We observe it collectively in the transition of nature through the overall transformative flow of seasons.

Change, as we most often use the word in western society, is momentary−usually focused on some specific. Transition may fire off some change, but it is never limited to one specific. Transition differs from change in that, while fired possibly from a specific, it immediately begins to connect across the spectrum−across the internal and the external, across individual and collective.

Robert has been an important part of my work for years. He has sent many individuals my way giving me the privilege of Coaching in his diverse treasure of connection. He is a courageous individual who stands consistently firm in his brand of leadership love. But for Robert it has not been a steady, upward progress in his leadership journey or in his overall evolution as an individual.

Robert has suffered.

I admire much about this man. He has often felt guilty about the times we’ve talked through some of this suffering; a guilt focused on the mere technicality of not being currently engaged in a “paying” coaching process. For me these times of conversation were a smart business move as I simply cared for someone who has been a partner in building my practice. But mostly, and deeply, it has been about doing what I can for someone I love and respect.

So perhaps the purpose of experience is to wear us free of our names. −Mark Nepo, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen

The tension of transition may indeed feel like suffering. And if it feels like such, then for you it is suffering. And hence the pain in transition−it is not some thing being made different, it is You. We are always being shaped; shaped by forces internal and external and by influences individual and collective.

Change, some thing made different, is just that; specific and focused. Transition serves a broad evolution. Change is doing something in a different way. Transition is doing different things. So yes, transition is evidence of life flowing in and through the individual. And yes, transition does not always feel good.

Indeed, Robert has suffered; and many times he was his own worst enemy. However, not all causes of his suffering were self-inflicted. Through each suffering Robert’s spirit would reenergize as he would consciously root a bit deeper into the soil of his Trueness.

Yes, it can be painful to have the name we may have assumed in our life worn away. Or, as Mark Nepo suggests, we may rather embrace experience as the story of a larger, truer name.

Like Robert, your Trueness can keep each suffering from impairing you into a downward spiral of despair, never to return. If you do not stop the spiral, the world will be horribly cheated.

The reality is that we come through our suffering stronger, better, Truer; and all are blessed in the process!

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Transforming Trueness – Impact (Transitions Shape Us)

Transition, one then another
dispensed on a soul
is to an individual
proof simply one is living.

−verse 1 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

The Impact needed in this world must come from those who have learned to be then do. In any situation, ask yourself what you most desire. The substance of the matter−the truth you need−is right there with you. The substance is in who you are much more than in what you think you might need to do.

Impact−Trueness practiced−is less in the doing and more in the being.

Concerning the root cause of any sense of lack, worry, or inadequacy, David Whyte says in his book, The Three Marriages; “The root is our desire to have any other reality than the one we are confronted with in the moment.” This is misplaced desire: A freedom with its base somewhere in the future. And if based only in a future−where seeing is focused−then your unique freedom is unattainable in the present.

Yes, both be and do are important and there is an order and a balance. If you as a leader feel the tension of this order and balance, then you are standing in the right place. Your most powerful stand as a leader is not some future vision (although a necessary tool). Your stand is in reality−the present.

In so many situations the pressure we feel is the shaping touch of a providential hand. Change, one then another, assures that we, as individuals, have ample opportunities for alteration−momentary modifications in doing that serve a transforming being.

In my writing some may say I’m too spiritual. Spiritual? I would not disagree. Too much? You decide for yourself. For I do not write these things to make you spiritual. I write these things so you may live in reality (in your present−in your Trueness).

From my personal journal:
I am grateful in the pool of each conscious moment. I am free to ‘be’ now and to not have to wait on some future state or status: Aren’t we all? And … that is my purpose: To open minds and hearts to what already is; to open an individual to who they already are−a present enfoldment that is all poised for unfoldment.

For the attentive (contemplative) leader, Impact is the living measure; confirmation of one’s willing participation in the unfolding−the flow.

Each transition is providential opportunity to say Yes.

And so it is that we are shaped by transition−one then another. Yes, we are being transformed into our very Trueness … if we but say, “Yes.”

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The Building of Confidence – Eric’s Story

Eric’s story interview began with music to my ears, “I feel more relaxed now that I understand my purpose.” Purpose−the beginning of impact.

As Eric looked back on his life, both personally and professionally, he began to realize how much his sense of being depended on, and revolved around, service and excellence in service. As a personal example, he told of how he remodeled the family’s main bathroom, meticulously doing all the work himself. When it was completed, he simply couldn’t wait for his wife and two teenage daughters to each take their first shower in the space he designed just for them. Professionally, in the job before his current role, he became competitive; meaning that being more conscious of impact made his talents and strengths more visible to those he served.

When in the transition to his current company and his present officer role, Eric felt lost. Finally it occurred to him why he felt that way. He was accustomed to knowing his work well and being precise in modeling service in the work. In the milieu of feeling lost, he was paralyzed by what he didn’t know−becoming afraid of saying, “I don’t know.” Looking back once again, he sees it as a lack of understanding, both of himself and of the larger story of the organization.

Referring to a time before being conscious and focused on his personal brand, Eric said, “I struggled with what it meant to better serve others by serving myself.” His confidence is now at a level where he is comfortable saying, I don’t know. Comfort and confidence have come with acceptance; of who he is, what he does, and his impact.

Eric Egan is an Innovation Officer using the power of teaching to lead others to their full contribution. His personal brand is to Empower Others to Confidently Serve and Self-serve.

Trust Yourself (Expertise)

In the agitation of intentional transition
a threat to confidence I consciously allowed.

Soul asks, “Do you know what you can do?”
and reminds me of a casual style avowed.

A loving voice not my own exhorts, “Trust yourself”
melting the icy texture of fear into knowledge matured.

With casual trust I float in creative flow
exiting a bubble of limitation with confidence assured.

−J. Brunson

Leadership Poem 1 – From Ed’s Story & loving encouragement from my best friend Becky

The Building of Confidence – Ed’s Story

Allow me to tell you a bit about Ed. Ed leads with integrity; modeled in his own discipline and personal dedication. His casual style of being with others allows him to realistically assess process in light of desired outcomes. His caring objectiveness drives him to be clear with what is expected and in how he holds others accountable to do their best and make a difference.

The story of confidence Ed chose to tell me was about being exposed to the power of consciousness during a transition. Ed is an information technology professional. As he was transitioning from the applications side to the services of infrastructure, the business engaged in a monumental merger. Ed was approached by a VP who told him that he was the right person to lead the transition for the receiving company. Ed was now in the throes of a double transition.

Ed told me of how honored he was by this placement of the VP’s confidence; and a trifle intimidated. Ed looked inside himself and said,  “You know, you can do this.” The icy texture of his fear began to melt. It was a chaotic year with plenty of hard work by all. Being conscious of his professional transition, and the transition period natural to a merger, provided the space where creativity could flow. Ed came out on the other side more mature, more seasoned, and with a better understanding of the overall story of the organization’s work.

“This showed me what you can do if you just believe in yourself”, Ed confidently claimed. Ed indeed believed in himself and his ability to motivate and move the right work forward. He saw everyone involved grow as an individual. With what I know about Ed as an individual, I saw this as a story where his personal brand was born into conscious presence. Ed Enables People to Believe: He exhibits what he expects as he helps others realize their potential.

Ed says that most people are really good at what they do; they just don’t realize it. He is motivated by highlighting the strengths of others in specific situations where they have opportunity to showcase skills, talents, and abilities. These are Ed’s success stories. It is about others saying to themselves what he learned to say, “You know; I can do this.”

The passion could be heard in Ed’s voice when he said to me, “It is the stories where I’ve helped others believe in themselves that have been the most rewarding for me.” That summarizes beautifully the man I’ve come to know; the man who caringly holds individuals accountable to do their very best and make a difference in this world.

Thank you Ed for your 21st Century leadership.

Edward Wilson, is an IT leader for a Fortune 100 company where he enables people to believe, do their best, and make a difference.

You’ve Only Just Begun

Sometimes a new beginning sneaks up on us. Under the illusion of control, we too often believe that something ends and something new begins; that there is an instant bridge between the two.

William Bridges taught me about managing transitions. Even when a new beginning clearly appears nestled against the ending, it may not be so for the individual. Change is a constant reality in the 21st Century. In our work, even the smallest change can throw one into the grieving process; even if the transition is brief.

Brief or not, a transition is a time for release and discovery in the riches of creativity; but only if the transition is honored.

“The severest test of work today is not of our strategies but of our imaginations and identities.”  -David Whyte in Crossing the Unknown Sea

Should you find yourself in a transition (and you will), don’t be too concerned when you experience some level of anxiety or even role confusion.

You’ve only just begun.