Transforming Trueness – Focus (We walk in the Art of Holding)

For your Trueness
holds your soul well
while you free voice
in the story you must tell.
−verse 6 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

Oddly enough, I began composing this piece on trueness and focus at a moment when I was questioning my focus in this work I do. From the standpoint of Trueness, I had stumbled in my walk with the art of holding. It Happens.

The stagger in my step came as I found myself looking at a barrier instead of around it. Instead of seeing opportunity beyond, I gave attention to the barrier itself−consequently attaching me to an outcome that is not my desire, my intent, and certainly not in the middle where the two meet and lead me to hold a steady, flowing presence.

Years ago we lived in the deep south in a house that backed to a bird sanctuary. The region in which we lived was on the migration path of the ruby-throated hummingbird. This beautiful little creature was among the many we enjoyed watching right in that backyard. It was fun watching the hummingbirds play and compete for the ports on the feeders loaded with sweet water.

As they drank continuously−storing up energy for the long journey to Mexico−they would get a bit rambunctious with each other. One day while watching them I noticed one bird hovering near the ground and tipping down to look at something in the grass. A tiny head struggled to peer upward and acknowledge the airborne comrade.

It seems in the intoxicating, exuberant play there had been a collision. I opened the sliding glass door, stepped onto the grass, located the little bugger, and placed him in the palm of my hand. I carried him inside and, as it was very early, I stirred my wife from her sleep so we could attend to our little friend.

By the time I had retrieved the bird from the grass, he was pretty out of it. As I carefully held his limp body in an open palm, and as Becky searched for a straw to offer him some drops of energy, he began to buzz in short bursts. Within a few hums he was carefully in flight edging along the glass door and then through the opening to freedom I had left.

Maybe what I’m being asked to learn is, that to more steadily walk in the art of holding, I must allow myself to be held by my own Trueness.

So what exactly is this art of holding? In our own Trueness it is indeed the way we are held; gently, without judgment, and with an openness freeing us into a flowing presence.

Now here’s the best part of my encounter with the little bird. For the remainder of that season, and all of the next, whenever I would walk into the yard while the hummers were playfully feeding, they would all scatter−except for that one little friend. He would land on the limb above my head and sit with me until I returned indoors.

The art of holding is a way with freedom−being with something or someone long enough to understand while releasing promptly into the full and present flow of the larger story.

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Desire & Intent – The Singularity of Trueness

Driven.
Drawn.
Delivered.

Driven down into desire,
at first lightless, intimidating,
distorted self is confronted by true self.

How did I get here?
Who is this?

Drawn out toward intent,
holding fast, releasing slow,
trueness advances through the contradiction.

I see substantiality.
I feel authenticity.

Delivered into the present,
in and through a presence,
joy amazing from depth suppressed.

I know purpose.
I sense impact.

Driven.
Drawn.
Delivered.

Clearly, solidly, finally;
It’s me.

−J. Brunson

Our Inner Territory – The Flow of Voice

It was our lunch break and I noticed Christie sitting alone in the company’s cafeteria. I had been engaged to provide a Desire & Intent workshop for this professional women’s group at their location in Texas. My temptation to walk over and ask permission to join Christie is only natural to me; but a voice suggested I not do so. Only as we resumed for the afternoon portion did I discover why.

Christie’s voice has always been present in the inner territory of who she is.

Christie was clear that her subsequent realizations were to the credit of her alone time at lunch and Elizabeth’s generous listening.

Elizabeth works with a special leader and respectively illustrated her own special spirit as she paired with Christie in our workshop exercises. I sat down with them to see how they were doing on the particular assignment. As part of expressing the freedom she was feeling, Christie told Elizabeth and me of her husband’s death just over two years ago; leaving her with their two young children.

Christie was becoming powerfully conscious of her own creative tension−her impact in this world as she holds the energy formed by the collision of her desire and her intent.

Now, after expressing out loud her own Desire & Intent and receiving the loving assistance from Elizabeth, I completely trust Christie’s voice to do its inner work and provide freedom through her impact in the world.

See companion truth – Our Outer Accountability – Living Voice

Our Inner Territory – Standing with A New Confidence

“Perhaps our development of a sustained ability for mental and emotional worry was the very apple into which we gladly bit, defending ourselves consciously against creation while at the same time expelling ourselves from the garden where we felt unconsciously at home.”
David Whyte, The Three Marriages

It had been just over a year since John and I had worked together in a coaching relationship. We had stayed in touch as I had always included him when emailing articles of interest to my leaders. John had been promoted as we wrapped up our first coaching engagement. Less than a year into this new role he was promoted once again. That is when he reached out to me to reengage for some transition coaching.

As we agreed on the customized method of our new work together, John told me about his plan for me to assist he and his leadership team with divisional strategy−leveraging my work with story. As I learned more about John’s objectives for this strategy work, I saw powerful validation for me, for John, and for our work together. You see, John is the person who said to me in our very first coaching session, “I contemplate the fictitious nature of our work world.”

I soon learned that John was a leader who truly loved his work, and in his work, loved.

In our second transition session, John set his 9 month objectives for his new role. As I sorted his objectives/actions under his points of Desire & Intent, it was clear John had come home−playing right into the best of who he is at the core.

John’s leadership journey has brought him to this place he now stands. He is consistently becoming more consciously at home with who he is and what it is he gladly has to give as a leader.

See companion truth – Our Outer Accountability – Living A New Confidence

Our Inner Territory – The Freedom of Desire & Intent

In our world of work it can become far too easy to walk into our space of supposed expertise, close a metaphorical door, do our own thing, and never be truly observed in this work by our own self or any other outside entity. While we are very often tempted to claim this cloistered behavior as a preference, deep inside we know we are conspiring against something “true” desiring to be sharply present.

Throughout my career, amid diverse opportunities, I have witnessed (and experienced) the fear associated with sudden freedom; a moment of realization beamed on the true self. The fear can emanate in a question as to whether the other, who has shown me my self, can be trusted or not, and fear also arises from a question as to whether this exposed self can be trusted−even though it is supposedly Me!

Brian is the coaching client who confessed, as I was trying to coral him into getting our first session on the calendar, that he might need some prodding to keep personal development at the top of his to-do list. In our fourth session Brian was finding himself vulnerable and exposed as the new level of awareness opened abruptly into his unique Desire & Intent.

It as at that point that he chuckled, and then apologized for same. It seems he had texted his wife (who knows my work), “Jeff Brunson is hurting my head.” The chuckle had come at her response, “He is just showing you, You!”

Desire & Intent, in its singular sense, is the Impact of your presence−providential permission to be with both self and the other.

It is at this Impact point where we find our originally intended courage to be Free.

See companion truth – Our Outer Accountability – Living Desire & Intent

Our Inner Territory – an Accountability to Impact

As we step out onto the path that our design has for us, we only find courage to journey with associated accountability as we hold the creative tension formed by the union of inner and outer charges.

“It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful country lies in between.”Diane Ackerman, A Natural History of the Senses

In this work I do as a Coach I’ve come to realize some important truths; one of which is that I am ultimately coaching an individual to that space where the internal and external collide.

Without a guide the resulting bang of this Impact can be deeply terrifying as one most instantly begins to search for what is wrong. Although my question leading to individual articulation of Desire & Intent is, for the person, a freeing revelation, that freedom can be accompanied by pure terror of a territory ahead, a ravaged hillside in the past, or even the view of the beautiful country suddenly brought to light.

In order to arrive at any understanding of my own creative tension, forming my commitment to Impact, I had to accept the attachment to desire while simultaneously realizing how crucial it was to let go into intent (for there, I have no control).

As we become more conscious of the need around us to which our Impact is called, we cannot allow the eagerness to fill such need take away any energy to do so.

Only in your creative tension may you let go of the narcissistic victory (a need to win/control) and flow with the Impact experience.

See companion truth−Our Outer Accountability – Living Impact

Listen Deeply – Love

The more I listen deeply in things, the more grounded I feel in the brand of love given to me. Yes, I see love as a pure gift. We do not earn the right to possess it nor can we demand conformity in order to give it to another. For what is given in reward to conformity is not love, but control. And not one good thing comes from control.

Impact
Release yourself from any unnecessary standard−usually placed on you by yourself−holding back the flow of your authentic self; and thus restricting your impact in the world.

Desire & Intent
Unrestricted, you freely honor the reality of desire. This opens the flow toward intent. Desire & Intent now cooperate as one releasing you into your living methodology … where living = flowing and methodology = rhythm:

A flow alive with the rhythm of who you are.

A New Confidence
The more we listen in the flow of impact, which is internal to external, the more grounded we become in a new confidence−which is what those whom we lead, influence, and serve need from us.

Voice
Personal purpose brought to a free, aware level composes your contribution in this world. This is your impact individualized by your unique voice.

Presence
Voice awareness gives us power to simply pay attention. As we are freed in our own true voice, others find more and more power of authenticity by our presence.

Focus
Freed  by purpose, you focus through each success and above every failure. Such leadership keeps us in the unfolding story together.

Love
Our unique brand of love is pristine freedom, allowing us to hold opposing truths we find in life−and that become more clear to us as we listen deeply. To hold is not to control. As we hold the freedom of love, we see more clearly, hear more succinctly, and feel with wholeness.