Remember … those who follow your loving lead depend on the rhythmic frequency of your unique Desire & Intent. Your brand of leadership love resonates in the service of voice freed and intuitively applied. We need your leading love to be directed at us and filtered through an authentic self-love.
Holding the intensity of self-love funds the transformation into your brand of love for us.
Wading to the Middle
My wade to the middle of the stream is not about the exclusion of either bank. Quite the opposite. My stance in the middle is about wading in the confluence of the best from both sides.
Throughout our individual journeys we experience a bit from each bank of the stream of living. Some of this we experience privately and some openly. Many things we accept because of the expectations of others, and some things we approach by choice; these are few and usually on the bank not so normal or comfortable to us.
Once you’ve stood on that other side, you find further confidence in moving to your stance in the middle of the flow. It is such experimentation and navigation that helps wash the fog from the lens that is our core, true self.
Wading in Love
While love is universal, it is not universally defined; meaning, we are each a part of the definition and execution from the stance established by our own brand of love. It is a love uniquely our own but not owned by us. This leading love was given to each of us in the beginning.
It seems the wade to the middle is the process designed for individual discovery and release of our individually branded love.
Partnered with my wade to the middle of the stream of awareness was a conscious journey with voice. Voice is part of your story and your part in a larger story. Feel this accountability and hold it carefully.
Doing this work I do, I often reflect on bosses I’ve had: Who was a manager? Who was a leader? Marilyn may have been one of the two best bosses; and a true leader. She knew something about who I am at the core, and she held me accountable to that goodness−my voice.
Voice is the resonance of authenticity intended in everything one does. At least that is ideal. At times, the intent of voice does not translate through to action; a sure sign voice is not flowing. Voice is however always present. Trust me on this. It has been there with you, in its uniqueness, since the beginning.
I remember several times, when spouting-off from some emotional response, Marilyn looking at me and lovingly pushing me back into my voice; “Jeff, you know better than that. That’s not representative of who you are.” Voice is not meant to be held close and tight within. This is the sign of a voice silenced by a distracted world and a false self; confined by wind-blown opinion and limiting expectations.
Even in repression voice is consistent. Whether they can name it or not, those who know you best, who have experienced you authentically, see this core consistently. And they want to see it freed and flowing. This is your foundation for service in this world.
Your relevance finds its birth in who you are. … finds life in the minds and hearts of others who are impacted by your presence. Your presence is a guide to others because you are clear on purpose−your motive, your method, and your meaning. −Wading the Stream of Awareness (Presence Chapter)
An experience is made sacred only as I am present with it and in it. In reality each experience is sacred in and of itself. It is one’s lack of presence (which is a choice) that steals away the sacredness of a particular experience. I am only now feeling the handle on the phrase, “It is what it is.” This phrase reminds me that I am in an experience−no good, no bad, just some moment to experience.
Joe is without a doubt in the top 10 of most loving spirits I’ve had the privilege to know. You could meet this friend of mine for the first time and I guarantee you the experience of instantaneously feeling the love I’ve known all these years.
Being clear on purpose means you also trust your purpose. Motive is the core of desire. Meaning is in your outcome of intent. And Desire & Intent meet in the tension of the middle as your method becomes impact.
Joe has been clear on purpose for a long time. I know this as I was present in some of those formative moments. His purpose? To love. Joe’s love is a commitment to presence−a being with that keeps him vibrantly conscious of opportunity.
No matter your purpose, know it. Trust it. Follow its clarity as you allow the merger of motive and meaning to flow through your sacred method.
My desire is for you to embrace the power in who you are. Do you know what it takes to let go into this power; completely?
I cannot make this knowing complete for you. My calling is in simply being with you as you open to the flow−Wading the Stream of Awareness.
Tragically, and all too common, people become trapped seeking soul validation in a system. No matter what system that may be, you are accountable in your freedom. To be free is a wholeness−encompassing mind, heart, soul, and spirit. There is freedom indeed in letting go; letting go into your impact.
Increasingly I am feeling−in my whole being−the accountability I hold for those younger than I; those who will courageously lead us forward. Tara is one such leader.
We were brainstorming an event for women in leadership. Because of deep, implanted desire, I couldn’t help but share my passion about Desire & Intent. I asked Tara the desire and intent question. Previously, we had talked about purpose where she declared herself a crusader. I sorted her 3 responses. Point 1 was descriptive of her desire, point 3 defined intent, and right there in the middle was the loving crusader.
Tara sent me a beautiful message about her experience that day. Yet I left the one blessed (twice-blessed as my friend Kathryn would say). I was able to give again through my own purposeful desire−allowing me to walk away with heart filled in hope for Tara and all those like her; each to whom I am blessed to be accountable in shared Impact.
The voice to which I so often refer is discernible in what we say, but rarely audible.
Contemplate the silence of your Voice:
1) Be still in the flow.
2) Listen for the call.
3) Feel what you hear.
As of late, I have been learning to open and feel what I hear in the flow. Each experience is processed in my body. This is a new level of conscious awareness for me. Learning to practice this physicality in balance with emotional, mental, and spiritual realms is, I’m learning, very important to being with any experience.
I recently observed this balance when being with my mom for three days as she acclimated to a care and rehab facility. In the movement of these experiences−the paradoxical flow−I am moving closer to who I really am. This has been a lifelong process; and life ain’t over yet!
The you intended from the beginning is real and present in, and around, you … now. I completely understand it may not feel like that at the moment. I only ask that you stand in the middle, reach out, and feel the essence of you−meant purposefully from the source.
The stream does not desire tragedy to be a part of its story, but embracing complexity, the stream accepts this as unavoidable. As a participant in the stream’s story, I take accountability to wade in a manner contributing to the joyful telling of the story. −The Stream as Dangerous, Love Chapter, page 220
Embracing complexity: We are not independent of the whole, separate from the larger story. Independent control is an illusion.
Authentic encouragement: “All things work together for good …” is a hard one to embrace if still a prisoner of divisional thinking. Fulfilling participation in the larger story requires one to be presently consistent in holding the reality of what is collectively good: success and failure, rising and falling, clarity and cloudiness, good and bad. Without the ability to embrace complexity, which includes your uniqueness in the story, you cannot be in the flow of the stream.
Freedom in A New Confidence: You enter a new confidence the moment you commit to holding the tension of contradiction in living−of wading the stream. As I process this very writing, I hold the tension of whether flow is found in each experience of the unfolding or if each experience places one in flow. Maybe it is both.
Experience−The freedom of a captured heart: An inability to confidently walk in the reality of life’s contradictions is to hold on to opinions and the need to be right−a false faith in divisional thinking. At the core of life in A New Confidence is Love. Only in love is one’s heart captured, and thus freed.
Your love as a leader builds my confidence for the flow. Please … courageously love and lead us in its freedom, and encourage us as we learn to hold ourselves confidently in the complex balance.
Confidence of experience allows me to wade the stream when clear. Respect, and just plain common sense, keeps me out of it when the bottom disappears. Love of the stream sustains me while I wait for it to clear. -The Stream as Treacherous, A New Confidence Chapter, page 83
Acknowledge the difference between tenacity and offensive stubbornness. The offense is against your purpose. Even though you may feel justified in an obstinate posture, this is usually driven from the negative. This strikes heavy of the old confidence.
The new confidence moves you from the positive, from your strength of purpose; and the strike−now a blow for impact−is lovingly guided by Desire & Intent. And yes, sometimes desire and intent become cloudy in the flow of life.
Stepping out of the stream when the bottom cannot be seen is not about fear; fear may be present and is connected to respect for our protection. However, the level of respect to which I refer is more about how we adore the stream and attend to our own, unique experience with the stream.
Clear or cloudy, the stream requests our presence; whether wading or waiting streamside. The stream encourages our attendance−the way we care for our self and the manner in which we apply our individual self.
The stream is patient−continuing purposefully in flow−as you move from the need to control in the old confidence to the conscious freedom of the new confidence.