Encouragement for Your Love (Building a Story with You)

I am convinced of the impossibility of providing encouragement to another if one does not hold the deep abundance of love inside. This focus of self-love appropriates the transformation into your brand of leadership love.

If you have read this far in my writings, you know my bold claim in the power of conscious love in one’s work. Yes, I firmly hold as truth that the 21st Century belongs to the Aware, Focused, and Loving leader. It is in this rhythm of 3 that your desire joins with intent and moves your brand of love into the flow of the larger story.

We want to build a story with you. In the union of story, it is imperative to learn to hold the tension in the middle stand that is your focus−where your desire joins with your intent and where you find your soul captured by the flow.

The loving part of my own Desire & Intent is that you lovingly lead others to their own authentic confidence. Invite us to build the story with you.

To build the story, encourage us:
1) To embrace complexity.
2) To honor individual uniqueness.
3) To join you in the Flow.

The collaboration in the telling of the story is animated as we love the flow, love the person, and love the story.

See companion post, Encourage Us

You, The Stream, and A New Confidence

Confidence of experience allows me to wade the stream when clear. Respect, and just plain common sense, keeps me out of it when the bottom disappears. Love of the stream sustains me while I wait for it to clear. -The Stream as Treacherous, A New Confidence Chapter, page 83

Acknowledge the difference between tenacity and offensive stubbornness. The offense is against your purpose. Even though you may feel justified in an obstinate posture, this is usually driven from the negative. This strikes heavy of the old confidence.

The new confidence moves you from the positive, from your strength of purpose; and the strike−now a blow for impact−is lovingly guided by Desire & Intent. And yes, sometimes desire and intent become cloudy in the flow of life.

Stepping out of the stream when the bottom cannot be seen is not about fear; fear may be present and is connected to respect for our protection. However, the level of respect to which I refer is more about how we adore the stream and attend to our own, unique experience with the stream.

Clear or cloudy, the stream requests our presence; whether wading or waiting streamside. The stream encourages our attendance−the way we care for our self and the manner in which we apply our individual self.

The stream is patient−continuing purposefully in flow−as you move from the need to control in the old confidence to the conscious freedom of the new confidence.

The Building of Confidence – Eric’s Story

Eric’s story interview began with music to my ears, “I feel more relaxed now that I understand my purpose.” Purpose−the beginning of impact.

As Eric looked back on his life, both personally and professionally, he began to realize how much his sense of being depended on, and revolved around, service and excellence in service. As a personal example, he told of how he remodeled the family’s main bathroom, meticulously doing all the work himself. When it was completed, he simply couldn’t wait for his wife and two teenage daughters to each take their first shower in the space he designed just for them. Professionally, in the job before his current role, he became competitive; meaning that being more conscious of impact made his talents and strengths more visible to those he served.

When in the transition to his current company and his present officer role, Eric felt lost. Finally it occurred to him why he felt that way. He was accustomed to knowing his work well and being precise in modeling service in the work. In the milieu of feeling lost, he was paralyzed by what he didn’t know−becoming afraid of saying, “I don’t know.” Looking back once again, he sees it as a lack of understanding, both of himself and of the larger story of the organization.

Referring to a time before being conscious and focused on his personal brand, Eric said, “I struggled with what it meant to better serve others by serving myself.” His confidence is now at a level where he is comfortable saying, I don’t know. Comfort and confidence have come with acceptance; of who he is, what he does, and his impact.

Eric Egan is an Innovation Officer using the power of teaching to lead others to their full contribution. His personal brand is to Empower Others to Confidently Serve and Self-serve.

Trust Yourself (Expertise)

In the agitation of intentional transition
a threat to confidence I consciously allowed.

Soul asks, “Do you know what you can do?”
and reminds me of a casual style avowed.

A loving voice not my own exhorts, “Trust yourself”
melting the icy texture of fear into knowledge matured.

With casual trust I float in creative flow
exiting a bubble of limitation with confidence assured.

−J. Brunson

Leadership Poem 1 – From Ed’s Story & loving encouragement from my best friend Becky

The Building of Confidence – Ed’s Story

Allow me to tell you a bit about Ed. Ed leads with integrity; modeled in his own discipline and personal dedication. His casual style of being with others allows him to realistically assess process in light of desired outcomes. His caring objectiveness drives him to be clear with what is expected and in how he holds others accountable to do their best and make a difference.

The story of confidence Ed chose to tell me was about being exposed to the power of consciousness during a transition. Ed is an information technology professional. As he was transitioning from the applications side to the services of infrastructure, the business engaged in a monumental merger. Ed was approached by a VP who told him that he was the right person to lead the transition for the receiving company. Ed was now in the throes of a double transition.

Ed told me of how honored he was by this placement of the VP’s confidence; and a trifle intimidated. Ed looked inside himself and said,  “You know, you can do this.” The icy texture of his fear began to melt. It was a chaotic year with plenty of hard work by all. Being conscious of his professional transition, and the transition period natural to a merger, provided the space where creativity could flow. Ed came out on the other side more mature, more seasoned, and with a better understanding of the overall story of the organization’s work.

“This showed me what you can do if you just believe in yourself”, Ed confidently claimed. Ed indeed believed in himself and his ability to motivate and move the right work forward. He saw everyone involved grow as an individual. With what I know about Ed as an individual, I saw this as a story where his personal brand was born into conscious presence. Ed Enables People to Believe: He exhibits what he expects as he helps others realize their potential.

Ed says that most people are really good at what they do; they just don’t realize it. He is motivated by highlighting the strengths of others in specific situations where they have opportunity to showcase skills, talents, and abilities. These are Ed’s success stories. It is about others saying to themselves what he learned to say, “You know; I can do this.”

The passion could be heard in Ed’s voice when he said to me, “It is the stories where I’ve helped others believe in themselves that have been the most rewarding for me.” That summarizes beautifully the man I’ve come to know; the man who caringly holds individuals accountable to do their very best and make a difference in this world.

Thank you Ed for your 21st Century leadership.

Edward Wilson, is an IT leader for a Fortune 100 company where he enables people to believe, do their best, and make a difference.

Non-Anxious Presence

I remember my mom telling me how my grandmother would retreat into a funk when family would depart after a long visit. The visit of our adult daughter was a wonderful four days. She is a beautiful young person who is fun to be around. She got the best of both her mom and me.

In my humble (biased) opinion, she has an advanced acceptance of self and of others. At her best she is a non-anxious presence. Her return to her own home left me less than calm – in an inherited funk.

After a full day of funkedness, I reminded myself of the blessing of her presence that is always with us. I was reminded of the present joy we have always had when it comes to this child; this young woman. In practicing presence, I practice calmness. There is confidence in calmness.

Non-Anxious Presence – The intoxication that is an appreciative expression of being in the presence of another.

As during her visit, I am restored only when conscious and present. Through the restorative power of conscious presence, I am guided by my voice; my voice of Love.

Fuel for Courage

What a thrill it was to hear Tom’s voice. We had not talked in a long time; my writing, his work, and our longtime friendship have kept us spiritually connected.

Tom has given his life to our college-age youth for more than a quarter of a century. He is dedicated to doing his part in growing the leaders our society needs. I was thrilled when he stated how he had never been more encouraged by the character and quality of the youth we now have in our midst. Tom sees a level of courage in today’s youth.

In my volunteer work with youth, I see an incredible ability for presence – we must find the best ways to support them to find victory over the many 21st Century distractions. Let us draw together in a commitment to our own voice and purpose as models for one another.

Voice can help one find authentic purpose; purpose will amplify one’s resonance. The energy of your voice – fueled by conscious application of your liberating values – produces the courage to be and do.

Your impact in this world manifests in your external presence one person at a time. It takes courage to be present. Presence is too often counterintuitive to what common, observable behavior in our society speaks.

The fuel for the courage you need is your voice.