Susan is all about supporting others when and where they need it. She holds a vision of true balance for others; a harmony of focus between the internal and the external.
From her commitment to true balance, Susan is intently focused on encouraging personal engagement:
I take interest in the work of others to encourage the interest that gives energy for the work and supports the confidence of the individual in the work.
Susan shows us what it looks like to step into the middle with focus. Her process is about deep, clear listening−required for a safe wade to the middle of the leadership stream. Susan is determined and focused by nature; her strengths of Active Clarity, Confidence, and Collaboration drive her forward with a silent, creative tension.
She has advanced into the middle of 21st Century impact with conscious focus−a confident, clear grasp on who she is and what is most important to her. Purpose drives how she supports; and in her brand of support she has become a purposeful teacher.
In the process of the support of others, Susan is learning to listen internally to hear better externally. She has consequently become more conscious of her own process of support. It is this process that has emerged and defined Susan’s very impact. This unique impact has long been present, she is now simply conscious of both presence and process.
Like Susan, do not make assumptions about the unknown. Instead, seek out information important to collective, focused direction.
The source of your confidence (confidence formed in the authentic self) is present long before the requirement of any situation. What is the source of this confidence? It is first of all grounded in your authenticity. Rooted in that fertile grounding is your purpose.
Purpose is made manifest in your story as you allow desire and intent to consciously join and flow toward impact−your purpose flowing out to others.
The 21st Century follower does not value an old confidence, a false narrative rooted in insubstantial expectations of being right−a win/lose position mistaken for leadership.
In this challenging 21st Century, full of distractions, purpose can keep you on a straight and narrow focus of what is best for you as a unique individual; and this is best for us.
When we are receiving what we need from you, we find your confident stance in the middle of your designed impact. This path of purpose will direct your managing energy toward things and your leading energy toward us.
From the middle of A New Confidence, and an ever-evolving presence, you lead purposefully. Purposeful presence is a guide to others.
This is what others need from you, a focus on them founded and grounded in your authentic, powerful purpose.
Our workplace needs love. What we need is for the individuals who make up our organizations to step forward in love; eliminate judgment; embrace uniqueness; and, with care, create accountability while behaving with responsibility. Love defined for the leader is to lead others with confidence while leading others to their own confidence. −Wading the Stream of Awareness (Love Chapter)
No doubt the last few years of economic instability have taken a toll on confidence. Even with many years of valuable experience under the belt, many have felt the erosion of fear. It was such a juncture where Richard and I began our work.
As we navigated the dialogue of our early sessions, Richard soon discovered both the power of a core value and the treachery of its overuse. In a difficult and challenging business climate, his deep desire to simply care was limited by a focus on reaction versus the stand of his brand of leadership−a proactive focus on success.
Practice is present attention and behavior applied for the balance of desire, intent, and impact. Richard has realized the power of creating space for others to come to their own connected conclusions. Moved by the love of his work, Richard is freeing his brand of love; leading others to a new confidence. Now free in practice, he establishes presence in how he cares−others receive the bounty of unfettered love in his presence.
Richard is elevating those he leads, influences, and serves beyond mere expectations; by caring about them−his brand of love as a leader. Allow love to be the credible guide it is for each moment−practice in the clarity of what you know is good and right.
Lisa and I worked together the first time shortly after she joined the organization as assistant to the development director. She is one of the most talented people I know. Her strength of process is a wonderful thing to observe.
When we met at the coffee shop, she had just moved into the vacated position of development director. We were meeting to talk about board development. I began our time together by stating that all we were about to do related to that topic, although it would probably not seem like such for a bit.
In my observation of Lisa at work, I saw something unique I could not quite describe. So, the first thing I did in our meeting was ask her to complete a personality profile. Bingo, there was the unique pattern I had observed. Before I could thoroughly explain this, Lisa asked, “Do you think I’m a good fit for this position?” Hell yes, was my immediate response−and I spent the next hour showing her why I felt so strongly in the affirmative.
You see, Lisa “had” this position; no question. It was a no-brainer. However, she had gone to the Executive Director and compelled an interview where she presented her 3-5 year plan. I asked Lisa the Desire & Intent question. She shared her answers. I then had her look at them while I asked if she could sort the detail of her 3-5 year plan under the points. She immediately said she could. “Then go and do that,” I said. “Because that is the guide for board development.”
Lisa’s plan is simply the active unfolding of her Desire & Intent. The unfolding is about seeing all things as purposeful as she moves along. Desire speaks only truth from her core. Intent grows from a need greater than herself.
Desire gives us voice to sing a song of purpose−a song with soul cleansing properties. We become like the elevated stream that is simply more consistent with its melody.
−Wading the Stream of Awareness
(Desire & Intent Chapter)
I am convinced of the impossibility of providing encouragement to another if one does not hold the deep abundance of love inside. This focus of self-love appropriates the transformation into your brand of leadership love.
If you have read this far in my writings, you know my bold claim in the power of conscious love in one’s work. Yes, I firmly hold as truth that the 21st Century belongs to the Aware, Focused, and Loving leader. It is in this rhythm of 3 that your desire joins with intent and moves your brand of love into the flow of the larger story.
We want to build a story with you. In the union of story, it is imperative to learn to hold the tension in the middle stand that is your focus−where your desire joins with your intent and where you find your soul captured by the flow.
The loving part of my own Desire & Intent is that you lovingly lead others to their own authentic confidence. Invite us to build the story with you.
To build the story, encourage us:
1) To embrace complexity.
2) To honor individual uniqueness.
3) To join you in the Flow.
The collaboration in the telling of the story is animated as we love the flow, love the person, and love the story.
The stream does not desire tragedy to be a part of its story, but embracing complexity, the stream accepts this as unavoidable. As a participant in the stream’s story, I take accountability to wade in a manner contributing to the joyful telling of the story. −The Stream as Dangerous, Love Chapter, page 220
Embracing complexity: We are not independent of the whole, separate from the larger story. Independent control is an illusion.
Authentic encouragement: “All things work together for good …” is a hard one to embrace if still a prisoner of divisional thinking. Fulfilling participation in the larger story requires one to be presently consistent in holding the reality of what is collectively good: success and failure, rising and falling, clarity and cloudiness, good and bad. Without the ability to embrace complexity, which includes your uniqueness in the story, you cannot be in the flow of the stream.
Freedom in A New Confidence: You enter a new confidence the moment you commit to holding the tension of contradiction in living−of wading the stream. As I process this very writing, I hold the tension of whether flow is found in each experience of the unfolding or if each experience places one in flow. Maybe it is both.
Experience−The freedom of a captured heart: An inability to confidently walk in the reality of life’s contradictions is to hold on to opinions and the need to be right−a false faith in divisional thinking. At the core of life in A New Confidence is Love. Only in love is one’s heart captured, and thus freed.
Your love as a leader builds my confidence for the flow. Please … courageously love and lead us in its freedom, and encourage us as we learn to hold ourselves confidently in the complex balance.
Confidence of experience allows me to wade the stream when clear. Respect, and just plain common sense, keeps me out of it when the bottom disappears. Love of the stream sustains me while I wait for it to clear. -The Stream as Treacherous, A New Confidence Chapter, page 83
Acknowledge the difference between tenacity and offensive stubbornness. The offense is against your purpose. Even though you may feel justified in an obstinate posture, this is usually driven from the negative. This strikes heavy of the old confidence.
The new confidence moves you from the positive, from your strength of purpose; and the strike−now a blow for impact−is lovingly guided by Desire & Intent. And yes, sometimes desire and intent become cloudy in the flow of life.
Stepping out of the stream when the bottom cannot be seen is not about fear; fear may be present and is connected to respect for our protection. However, the level of respect to which I refer is more about how we adore the stream and attend to our own, unique experience with the stream.
Clear or cloudy, the stream requests our presence; whether wading or waiting streamside. The stream encourages our attendance−the way we care for our self and the manner in which we apply our individual self.
The stream is patient−continuing purposefully in flow−as you move from the need to control in the old confidence to the conscious freedom of the new confidence.