Rhythm

From December 2007

It was an aha moment when, while watching a movie, the word came to me–or more specifically the message was heard; “Your lost your rhythm.”

As I thought about this, it became clear when I lost my rhythm. It was 10 years ago this month. That’s when we moved to Chicago.

Now, I write about this and I’m not even sure I know what it really means. But in some of my study as of late, I’ve become very conscious of my need to simply live my life–let my days flow–to embrace that each day is a complex mixture of good, bad, happiness, sadness, etc.

This is life: to live, let live, to acknowledge the things that occur, to not let emotions create any false messages, and to flow toward the positive.

I must get my rhythm back.

What is Rhythm?

For me, is it living the day? Is it savoring the moments?

This I know, it’s living free of the act of, or even thinking about, judgment. It’s being free of debilitating anger. It’s loving unconditionally, sending only love and peace.

And this is the why of the message–
… that I once again Feel the Rhythm!
… that I Let myself feel it.
… that I Listen for it, daily.

That I embrace and love the music laid down in it’s beat.

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Voice – Holding Close

That one thing
so important
listening to it
hearing it sharply
acting on it.

If I don’t, recklessly
I push it to the shadow.

But if I do listen
if I do hear
and consequently choose
liberated I am
by my own resonance.

And from authentic voice
a unique vibration
joins a larger cadence
and together we gather
and together we give
and together we grow.

—J. Brunson

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Transforming Trueness – A New Confidence (It all connects, if we but let it)

For each transition
successive will be
when committed one is
to truth and reality.

−verse 3 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

As I write these words, I begin year 13 of this work I practice out here in the solo struggle. For the entire time I’ve journeyed into this work I have kept a business journal. And just like I do in my personal journaling I often review past pages.

Continually I’m amazed at how one thing has built upon another and bestows what is before me in the present. This year will show me my 60th birthday. What else will I be shown? Over the last several years I have been immersed into the true second half of life−and it seems this baptism has been by the fire of transition and the clear flow of transformation.

Let me say this: I am truly thankful to be at this place I find myself. There is no time or place to which I would wish to return. The journey is giving me more than ever.

And yet … there are still moments when in doubt I question my own truth and reality.

Recently in my business journal I asked myself, “What are you really doing?” This question was in reference to certain activities and energy investments I was making coming into year 13. Ultimately this self-imposed questioning was challenging my commitment−and that’s okay.

The one question led to other questions. And the answer to each surprised me. As I saw in the answers the eloquent thread through the years, I gratefully realized a still alive and kicking commitment to truth and reality. In this immersion into what is true and real, and into each successive transition, it becomes frighteningly easy to trip right into a hole of doubt. Questions are not just okay, and good, but deep-reaching questions are critical to the transformative process.

Clearly in my own journey, A New Confidence is an evolving critter. Confidence becomes new at some juncture when the true self begins to move more vividly in one’s consciousness than the unconscious false self. This newness−a now demanding awareness−has arrived simply because of reconnection with an inward source; your own authenticity.

Safe in authenticity, you are ready for the connections when clarity presents itself. This is A New Confidence.

Just like the mountain stream I love to wade, my flowing presence can become suddenly cloudy. At such times it is important to step out of the flow, observe what is passing, and allow clarity to once again be made known.

I complete this composition in one such moment beside the stream of all I know. Before I put a pencil to the task of figuring it all out, I must arrive back at the side of the stream once again committed to truth and reality.

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Our Inner Territory – A Path for Love

Leading us to build a story together is a leader’s love applied.

The story of your reach as a leader cannot be told out in the world until your story has footing in the inner territory.

My guess is that when people (in general) hear the word “love” they first think of romantic love−an outward expression. Love is so much more. Love is not captured by such narrow definition.

While Cherice may be relatively new in the field of management, she is not new to leadership. Does love guide her on the leadership path? I firmly believe this is so. As I’ve come to know her in our coaching relationship, I’ve learned how committed Cherice is to each individual. Her commitment is founded on a strong base of pure and simple respect.

In some recent development work, the goal Cherice set is indicative of the leader she is: Continue to build on the power of trust & provide an environment where each individual is safe to be open, honest, and contribute from their best.

Her path for love as a leader is forged as she builds successful relationships through the sharing of ideas and knowledge. Cherice’s desire and intent as a leader intersect into her impact as she actively leverages the learning she has had in diverse opportunities. She consciously does this as a way to both challenge and lead each individual to assume charge of their own learning.

It is her conscientious trek through her own inner territory that confirms and makes real her intentional impact in the outer accountability Cherice takes so seriously.

See companion truth – Our Outer Accountability – Living Love

Our Inner Territory – an Accountability to Impact

As we step out onto the path that our design has for us, we only find courage to journey with associated accountability as we hold the creative tension formed by the union of inner and outer charges.

“It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful country lies in between.”Diane Ackerman, A Natural History of the Senses

In this work I do as a Coach I’ve come to realize some important truths; one of which is that I am ultimately coaching an individual to that space where the internal and external collide.

Without a guide the resulting bang of this Impact can be deeply terrifying as one most instantly begins to search for what is wrong. Although my question leading to individual articulation of Desire & Intent is, for the person, a freeing revelation, that freedom can be accompanied by pure terror of a territory ahead, a ravaged hillside in the past, or even the view of the beautiful country suddenly brought to light.

In order to arrive at any understanding of my own creative tension, forming my commitment to Impact, I had to accept the attachment to desire while simultaneously realizing how crucial it was to let go into intent (for there, I have no control).

As we become more conscious of the need around us to which our Impact is called, we cannot allow the eagerness to fill such need take away any energy to do so.

Only in your creative tension may you let go of the narcissistic victory (a need to win/control) and flow with the Impact experience.

See companion truth−Our Outer Accountability – Living Impact

Step into the Middle with Focus

Susan is all about supporting others when and where they need it. She holds a vision of true balance for others; a harmony of focus between the internal and the external.

From her commitment to true balance, Susan is intently focused on encouraging personal engagement:

I take interest in the work of others to encourage the interest that gives energy for the work and supports the confidence of the individual in the work.

Susan shows us what it looks like to step into the middle with focus. Her process is about deep, clear listening−required for a safe wade to the middle of the leadership stream. Susan is determined and focused by nature; her strengths of Active Clarity, Confidence, and Collaboration drive her forward with a silent, creative tension.

She has advanced into the middle of 21st Century impact with conscious focus−a confident, clear grasp on who she is and what is most important to her. Purpose drives how she supports; and in her brand of support she has become a purposeful teacher.

In the process of the support of others, Susan is learning to listen internally to hear better externally. She has consequently become more conscious of her own process of support. It is this process that has emerged and defined Susan’s very impact. This unique impact has long been present, she is now simply conscious of both presence and process.

Like Susan, do not make assumptions about the unknown. Instead, seek out information important to collective, focused direction.

Step into the Middle with Presence

Purpose finds life in the present and flows through your presence to others. There is spirited validation in being with what is happening in the moments that unfold before us.

Donnie loves golf. He values the engagement and camaraderie associated in the playing. We had documented his one goal and had moved our focus to the first of three strategies of balanced action. At this point I made my observation; “Donnie, I bet when playing a round with someone less experienced, you cannot help but to coach with a few helpful tips.”

Just prior to our session, Donnie had his performance review with his boss, Steve. Steve and Donnie had also recently played a round of golf with a client−a man who seemed a bit self-conscious of his quality of play. In the performance review, Steve recounted Donnie’s observation of what was unfolding with this client, and how Donnie stopped, placed attention on the man, shared a few tips in his focused way of interacting, moved back, and watched as the client relaxed into the flow of the collective game.

Steve had observed an unfolding which, in the sharing of the story, helped Donnie see his Brand in action; and that this very method was valuable to Donnie’s employees.

From this story, Donnie and I documented this strategy:
Acting on my desire for others to understand why something is important, I then coach for a level of empowering understanding by:
1) First helping the individual see the obvious barriers to a better  understanding and good process
2) Creating a dialogue that opens a space for teaching & learning in a collaborative, interactive manner–connecting the “how” of the situation to the vision
3) Empowering the individual to commit and act on what has been learned while creating the accountability and expectations to support success

As I pointed out to Donnie, this strategy of focused interaction was not new. Like with Steve’s story, we simply brought it to a conscious level−to now be used intentionally and consistently.

In the balance of Desire & Intent, others feel care in focused interaction. This is service with purpose.