Free and Joyful Expression

Please, love your work.
for in such love
of hand to till
more apt you’ll be
to love me.

Difficult? No it’s not,
to love in your work
when such application
is a flow natural to you
since the start.

Matter not what took you inside
to your true self.

For at the home of self,
love fires
story flows
generosity presents.

Opened by Trueness
freely and joyfully,
your expression invites me,
opens me,
into my own
true expression.

−J. Brunson

Poem grounded from Skillfully Generous – Love

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The Impact Encounter

The tenor I’ve been given,
from my beginning,
is to be with another
in the encounter with Impact.

A living measure is this encounter,
a bright attention to what is unfolding.

The measure lives only in the holding,
the mastery of catch and release.

As I cast for connection,
with presence a conscious method,
I net the quarry with love,
then free her into the flow of awareness.

Awareness is not constrained in physicality,
bodily absence not a barrier,
as love spans any chasm
and presence holds us soundly.

Spirit to spirit for a brief time we were banded,
and now we swim separately yet forever bound.

−J. Brunson

Our Inner Territory – A Path for Love

Leading us to build a story together is a leader’s love applied.

The story of your reach as a leader cannot be told out in the world until your story has footing in the inner territory.

My guess is that when people (in general) hear the word “love” they first think of romantic love−an outward expression. Love is so much more. Love is not captured by such narrow definition.

While Cherice may be relatively new in the field of management, she is not new to leadership. Does love guide her on the leadership path? I firmly believe this is so. As I’ve come to know her in our coaching relationship, I’ve learned how committed Cherice is to each individual. Her commitment is founded on a strong base of pure and simple respect.

In some recent development work, the goal Cherice set is indicative of the leader she is: Continue to build on the power of trust & provide an environment where each individual is safe to be open, honest, and contribute from their best.

Her path for love as a leader is forged as she builds successful relationships through the sharing of ideas and knowledge. Cherice’s desire and intent as a leader intersect into her impact as she actively leverages the learning she has had in diverse opportunities. She consciously does this as a way to both challenge and lead each individual to assume charge of their own learning.

It is her conscientious trek through her own inner territory that confirms and makes real her intentional impact in the outer accountability Cherice takes so seriously.

See companion truth – Our Outer Accountability – Living Love

Our Inner Territory – Standing with A New Confidence

“Perhaps our development of a sustained ability for mental and emotional worry was the very apple into which we gladly bit, defending ourselves consciously against creation while at the same time expelling ourselves from the garden where we felt unconsciously at home.”
David Whyte, The Three Marriages

It had been just over a year since John and I had worked together in a coaching relationship. We had stayed in touch as I had always included him when emailing articles of interest to my leaders. John had been promoted as we wrapped up our first coaching engagement. Less than a year into this new role he was promoted once again. That is when he reached out to me to reengage for some transition coaching.

As we agreed on the customized method of our new work together, John told me about his plan for me to assist he and his leadership team with divisional strategy−leveraging my work with story. As I learned more about John’s objectives for this strategy work, I saw powerful validation for me, for John, and for our work together. You see, John is the person who said to me in our very first coaching session, “I contemplate the fictitious nature of our work world.”

I soon learned that John was a leader who truly loved his work, and in his work, loved.

In our second transition session, John set his 9 month objectives for his new role. As I sorted his objectives/actions under his points of Desire & Intent, it was clear John had come home−playing right into the best of who he is at the core.

John’s leadership journey has brought him to this place he now stands. He is consistently becoming more consciously at home with who he is and what it is he gladly has to give as a leader.

See companion truth – Our Outer Accountability – Living A New Confidence

Listen Deeply – Love

The more I listen deeply in things, the more grounded I feel in the brand of love given to me. Yes, I see love as a pure gift. We do not earn the right to possess it nor can we demand conformity in order to give it to another. For what is given in reward to conformity is not love, but control. And not one good thing comes from control.

Impact
Release yourself from any unnecessary standard−usually placed on you by yourself−holding back the flow of your authentic self; and thus restricting your impact in the world.

Desire & Intent
Unrestricted, you freely honor the reality of desire. This opens the flow toward intent. Desire & Intent now cooperate as one releasing you into your living methodology … where living = flowing and methodology = rhythm:

A flow alive with the rhythm of who you are.

A New Confidence
The more we listen in the flow of impact, which is internal to external, the more grounded we become in a new confidence−which is what those whom we lead, influence, and serve need from us.

Voice
Personal purpose brought to a free, aware level composes your contribution in this world. This is your impact individualized by your unique voice.

Presence
Voice awareness gives us power to simply pay attention. As we are freed in our own true voice, others find more and more power of authenticity by our presence.

Focus
Freed  by purpose, you focus through each success and above every failure. Such leadership keeps us in the unfolding story together.

Love
Our unique brand of love is pristine freedom, allowing us to hold opposing truths we find in life−and that become more clear to us as we listen deeply. To hold is not to control. As we hold the freedom of love, we see more clearly, hear more succinctly, and feel with wholeness.

Step into the Middle with Love

Remember … those who follow your loving lead depend on the rhythmic frequency of your unique Desire & Intent. Your brand of leadership love resonates in the service of voice freed and intuitively applied. We need your leading love to be directed at us and filtered through an authentic self-love.

Holding the intensity of self-love funds the transformation into your brand of love for us.

Wading to the Middle
My wade to the middle of the stream is not about the exclusion of either bank. Quite the opposite. My stance in the middle is about wading in the confluence of the best from both sides.

Throughout our individual journeys we experience a bit from each bank of the stream of living. Some of this we experience privately and some openly. Many things we accept because of the expectations of others, and some things we approach by choice; these are few and usually on the bank not so normal or comfortable to us.

Once you’ve stood on that other side, you find further confidence in moving to your stance in the middle of the flow. It is such experimentation and navigation that helps wash the fog from the lens that is our core, true self.

Wading in Love
While love is universal, it is not universally defined; meaning, we are each a part of the definition and execution from the stance established by our own brand of love. It is a love uniquely our own but not owned by us. This leading love was given to each of us in the beginning.

It seems the wade to the middle is the process designed for individual discovery and release of our individually branded love.

Letting Go into Love

Love goes beyond mere expectations.

Our workplace needs love. What we need is for the individuals who make up our organizations to step forward in love; eliminate judgment; embrace uniqueness; and, with care, create accountability while behaving with responsibility. Love defined for the leader is to lead others with confidence while leading others to their own confidence. −Wading the Stream of Awareness (Love Chapter)

No doubt the last few years of economic instability have taken a toll on confidence. Even with many years of valuable experience under the belt, many have felt the erosion of fear. It was such a juncture where Richard and I began our work.

As we navigated the dialogue of our early sessions, Richard soon discovered both the power of a core value and the treachery of its overuse. In a difficult and challenging business climate, his deep desire to simply care was limited by a focus on reaction versus the stand of his brand of leadership−a proactive focus on success.

Practice is present attention and behavior applied for the balance of desire, intent, and impact. Richard has realized the power of creating space for others to come to their own connected conclusions. Moved by the love of his work, Richard is freeing his brand of love; leading others to a new confidence. Now free in practice, he establishes presence in how he cares−others receive the bounty of unfettered love in his presence.

Richard is elevating those he leads, influences, and serves beyond mere expectations; by caring about them−his brand of love as a leader. Allow love to be the credible guide it is for each moment−practice in the clarity of what you know is good and right.

See sister post, Release Love into Skill 7