Transforming Trueness – Voice (In the connections, voice clears)

And the deepest of reality,
an original endowment,
is the intricate truth
of who one really is.

−verse 4 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

What is your service in this world?

In your own truth and reality, your answer is a simple complexity. We are not simple beings, but it seems we are on a continual journey to simply be. Along the way we are indeed preyed upon by a busyness formed in the confusion of a transforming collective presence in this 21st Century.

There is a collective transformation in process. One major contributor to complexity is a collective unconsciousness to what is really going on. And this is where the individual consciously and powerfully breaks into the scene.

The World Needs You!

Your unique, individual voice is a dynamic entrance into a collective, transforming awareness.

In the recent evolution of my Coaching Model I was reminded that I have done nothing on my own. The freeing of my Trueness has been a collective−and truly collaborative−effort. My richest blessings are consistently held and carried by those who lovingly give of their presence. These connections walk with me in the art of holding. It is in, and with, these connections that voice clears.

In the connections, voice clears. Yes, and this begins in the internal journey as you reconnect with original source−your authentic self from the beginning. Do not limit your thinking in a too-narrow definition of connections. Certainly there are those inner connections we make when clarity presents itself. And there are those connections deepened on the outside as, in a new confidence, we clear the way for our own voice to be heard through our service in a needy world.

Your unique resonance needs the reverberation from these connections. Such reflection reassures the inner timbre. The freeing of your truth is at once joyful and painful.

“We have to leave the garden, so to speak. It is this movement out and back between the loneliness and desperation of the false self and the fullness of the True Self that is the process of transformation.” −Richard Rhor

I cannot offer any advice on avoiding the discomfort of transition nor the pain that comes with transformation. Again, we are always being shaped by forces internal and external and by influences individual and collective.

What I can ensure is this: If you walk with others and allow them to walk with you−letting your voice free, and hearing the other−you will know the Art of Holding in the deepest of reality.

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Our Inner Territory – The Flow of Voice

It was our lunch break and I noticed Christie sitting alone in the company’s cafeteria. I had been engaged to provide a Desire & Intent workshop for this professional women’s group at their location in Texas. My temptation to walk over and ask permission to join Christie is only natural to me; but a voice suggested I not do so. Only as we resumed for the afternoon portion did I discover why.

Christie’s voice has always been present in the inner territory of who she is.

Christie was clear that her subsequent realizations were to the credit of her alone time at lunch and Elizabeth’s generous listening.

Elizabeth works with a special leader and respectively illustrated her own special spirit as she paired with Christie in our workshop exercises. I sat down with them to see how they were doing on the particular assignment. As part of expressing the freedom she was feeling, Christie told Elizabeth and me of her husband’s death just over two years ago; leaving her with their two young children.

Christie was becoming powerfully conscious of her own creative tension−her impact in this world as she holds the energy formed by the collision of her desire and her intent.

Now, after expressing out loud her own Desire & Intent and receiving the loving assistance from Elizabeth, I completely trust Christie’s voice to do its inner work and provide freedom through her impact in the world.

See companion truth – Our Outer Accountability – Living Voice

Listen Deeply – Voice

My work of the last 17 years in particular has progressively blessed me with awareness of the power of my own voice. More recently however, I’ve learned the imperativeness of constant and consistent awareness of voice.

It seems without fail that when I am blessed by an individual’s words expressing the impact of our work together, I am reminded of work where voice was in full flow. Where flow means being fully present in the collision, and consequent tension, of desire and intent; and remaining in the presence of the one to whom I offer my voice.

We must find a way to live in the continuing conversation, with all its conflicts and complexities, while staying in close touch with our own inner teacher. −Parker J. Palmer, A Hidden Wholeness

My Living Methodology is the rhythm that is the flow of unique Desire & Intent. There is an energetic resonance alive in this rhythmic stream of authenticity.

Your inner teacher speaks; often very softly.

One must learn to be still to hear this teacher. The teacher speaks in tune with your distinctive resonance allowing you the opportunity to hear true self in a quiet, safe inner space.

At the core of true self is Voice.

Your impact in this world is individualized by your unique voice. Listen to it−deeply: hear it, pay attention to it, and choose accordingly.

A Flow to Simplicity through Service

2012 was for me a year of transformation, an immersion in deep and comforting reality.

Allow me to expound a bit on See the Unfolding.

As is obvious through frequent reference, the writings of Richard Rohr continue to be in the flow of my evolution. In conscious diligence with his writing−and flowing encouragement−I discovered a beautiful methodology serving my own Confidence Cycle (and business model) of Gather to Give to Grow.

Think of your service in this world as I share this methodology with you. Like my confidence cycle, this methodology is expressed in the rhetorical power of 3:

  1. Forgive Everything
  2. Everything Belongs
  3. See the Unfolding

In Forgive Everything I repair the basket so what I Gather isn’t lost along the path. In Everything Belongs I embrace what the basket holds: no need to label, as labeling would impede Giving from the bounty in the basket. And only now can I See the Unfolding as I Grow and travel along with those who receive from the basket.

As the flow for me has simplified, I continue to better understand and embrace my service in the world. This service is simplified by this beautiful methodology and freed to flow in the network of relationships−the true space of service.

Step into the Middle with Voice

Partnered with my wade to the middle of the stream of awareness was a conscious journey with voice. Voice is part of your story and your part in a larger story. Feel this accountability and hold it carefully.

Doing this work I do, I often reflect on bosses I’ve had: Who was a manager? Who was a leader? Marilyn may have been one of the two best bosses; and a true leader. She knew something about who I am at the core, and she held me accountable to that goodness−my voice.

Voice is the resonance of authenticity intended in everything one does. At least that is ideal. At times, the intent of voice does not translate through to action; a sure sign voice is not flowing. Voice is however always present. Trust me on this. It has been there with you, in its uniqueness, since the beginning.

I remember several times, when spouting-off from some emotional response, Marilyn looking at me and lovingly pushing me back into my voice; “Jeff, you know better than that. That’s not representative of who you are.” Voice is not meant to be held close and tight within. This is the sign of a voice silenced by a distracted world and a false self; confined by wind-blown opinion and limiting expectations.

Even in repression voice is consistent. Whether they can name it or not, those who know you best, who have experienced you authentically, see this core consistently. And they want to see it freed and flowing. This is your foundation for service in this world.

Letting Go into Presence

I have known Joe for 45 years as of this writing.

Your relevance finds its birth in who you are. … finds life in the minds and hearts of others who are impacted by your presence. Your presence is a guide to others because you are clear on purpose−your motive, your method, and your meaning. −Wading the Stream of Awareness (Presence Chapter)

An experience is made sacred only as I am present with it and in it. In reality each experience is sacred in and of itself. It is one’s lack of presence (which is a choice) that steals away the sacredness of a particular experience. I am only now feeling the handle on the phrase, “It is what it is.” This phrase reminds me that I am in an experience−no good, no bad, just some moment to experience.

Joe is without a doubt in the top 10 of most loving spirits I’ve had the privilege to know. You could meet this friend of mine for the first time and I guarantee you the experience of instantaneously feeling the love I’ve known all these years.

Being clear on purpose means you also trust your purpose. Motive is the core of desire. Meaning is in your outcome of intent. And Desire & Intent meet in the tension of the middle as your method becomes impact.

Joe has been clear on purpose for a long time. I know this as I was present in some of those formative moments. His purpose? To love. Joe’s love is a commitment to presence−a being with that keeps him vibrantly conscious of opportunity.

No matter your purpose, know it. Trust it. Follow its clarity as you allow the merger of motive and meaning to flow through your sacred method.

See sister post, Release Presence into Skill 5

Letting Go into Voice

It sometimes seems there are barriers to our voice at every turn. As we learn to trust the flow, the rocks become an exciting selling point for the journey. Trusting the flow as a clarifying process, we learn patience as we move along. As our path unfolds before us. −Wading the Stream of Awareness(Voice Chapter)

Our behavior is driven by what we believe we can or cannot do. In honoring voice you support beliefs that empower the real you. Giving to yourself the time to learn, grow, and develop is a selfless commitment; it is nourishing for those you lead, influence, and serve.

I suppose one could become obsessively focused on caring for the internal. Some might say that about me this year. With a stressful beginning to the year, I chose to go inside (bouncing off some of my own rocks). This focus internally was to purify and protect the flow of my calling, my voice. Voice does not just flow externally, it begins from an internal stream.

I had allowed external circumstances to dam the flow. The dam was of my own construction as I continually tried to hold on−to control.

To lead, influence, and serve as called, you must nurture your own voice. The resonance of voice is purified by selfless time−time for you. There is bounty in the flow of voice. In your voice you are called into the present.

As you become more aware of your unfolding story, you create the deep commitment to care for the internal.

Everything you need you have now.

See sister post, Release Voice into Skill 4