Transforming Trueness – A New Confidence (It all connects, if we but let it)

For each transition
successive will be
when committed one is
to truth and reality.

−verse 3 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

As I write these words, I begin year 13 of this work I practice out here in the solo struggle. For the entire time I’ve journeyed into this work I have kept a business journal. And just like I do in my personal journaling I often review past pages.

Continually I’m amazed at how one thing has built upon another and bestows what is before me in the present. This year will show me my 60th birthday. What else will I be shown? Over the last several years I have been immersed into the true second half of life−and it seems this baptism has been by the fire of transition and the clear flow of transformation.

Let me say this: I am truly thankful to be at this place I find myself. There is no time or place to which I would wish to return. The journey is giving me more than ever.

And yet … there are still moments when in doubt I question my own truth and reality.

Recently in my business journal I asked myself, “What are you really doing?” This question was in reference to certain activities and energy investments I was making coming into year 13. Ultimately this self-imposed questioning was challenging my commitment−and that’s okay.

The one question led to other questions. And the answer to each surprised me. As I saw in the answers the eloquent thread through the years, I gratefully realized a still alive and kicking commitment to truth and reality. In this immersion into what is true and real, and into each successive transition, it becomes frighteningly easy to trip right into a hole of doubt. Questions are not just okay, and good, but deep-reaching questions are critical to the transformative process.

Clearly in my own journey, A New Confidence is an evolving critter. Confidence becomes new at some juncture when the true self begins to move more vividly in one’s consciousness than the unconscious false self. This newness−a now demanding awareness−has arrived simply because of reconnection with an inward source; your own authenticity.

Safe in authenticity, you are ready for the connections when clarity presents itself. This is A New Confidence.

Just like the mountain stream I love to wade, my flowing presence can become suddenly cloudy. At such times it is important to step out of the flow, observe what is passing, and allow clarity to once again be made known.

I complete this composition in one such moment beside the stream of all I know. Before I put a pencil to the task of figuring it all out, I must arrive back at the side of the stream once again committed to truth and reality.

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Our Inner Territory – Standing with A New Confidence

“Perhaps our development of a sustained ability for mental and emotional worry was the very apple into which we gladly bit, defending ourselves consciously against creation while at the same time expelling ourselves from the garden where we felt unconsciously at home.”
David Whyte, The Three Marriages

It had been just over a year since John and I had worked together in a coaching relationship. We had stayed in touch as I had always included him when emailing articles of interest to my leaders. John had been promoted as we wrapped up our first coaching engagement. Less than a year into this new role he was promoted once again. That is when he reached out to me to reengage for some transition coaching.

As we agreed on the customized method of our new work together, John told me about his plan for me to assist he and his leadership team with divisional strategy−leveraging my work with story. As I learned more about John’s objectives for this strategy work, I saw powerful validation for me, for John, and for our work together. You see, John is the person who said to me in our very first coaching session, “I contemplate the fictitious nature of our work world.”

I soon learned that John was a leader who truly loved his work, and in his work, loved.

In our second transition session, John set his 9 month objectives for his new role. As I sorted his objectives/actions under his points of Desire & Intent, it was clear John had come home−playing right into the best of who he is at the core.

John’s leadership journey has brought him to this place he now stands. He is consistently becoming more consciously at home with who he is and what it is he gladly has to give as a leader.

See companion truth – Our Outer Accountability – Living A New Confidence

Listen Deeply – A New Confidence

Should you hear a voice telling you to place all your energy externally and to forget about directing any internally, to the inner journey, ignore this voice. It is not your own.

I followed up for weeks before corralling this new coaching client into locking down our first scheduled session. In the message stream where we set the date, he thanked me for following up with him. He also stated, “Personal Development is not always at the top of my to do list. Might need some prodding to keep it there.”

A New Confidence is the result of hard work (diligence) focused inward−as the flow is from the internal to the external. This inner work is selfless (not selfish) as you make yourself better for those you lead, influence, and serve.

A New Confidence is the result of a balance of cycles. There is the cycle of your core values; there is the cycle of key strengths when you are at your best; and there is your Desire & Intent

… the cycle that forms the infrastructure of your Living Methodology.

Desire & Intent channels your energy into a creative, fertile flow alive with who you really are in the unfolding moments of impact. Listen deeply in the calm of your moment by moment impact in this world. Impact is not just an outcome. It is a consistent collision of desire and intent keeping you in our presence and us in the power of your living, loving flow.

So with my new client, I will use my living, loving flow to prod personal development to the top of his to do list.