Letting Go into Impact

My desire is for you to embrace the power in who you are. Do you know what it takes to let go into this power; completely?

I cannot make this knowing complete for you. My calling is in simply being with you as you open to the flow−Wading the Stream of Awareness.

Tragically, and all too common, people become trapped seeking soul validation in a system. No matter what system that may be, you are accountable in your freedom. To be free is a wholeness−encompassing mind, heart, soul, and spirit. There is freedom indeed in letting go; letting go into your impact.

Increasingly I am feeling−in my whole being−the accountability I hold for those younger than I; those who will courageously lead us forward. Tara is one such leader.

We were brainstorming an event for women in leadership. Because of deep, implanted desire, I couldn’t help but share my passion about Desire & Intent. I asked Tara the desire and intent question.  Previously, we had talked about purpose where she declared herself a crusader. I sorted her 3 responses. Point 1 was descriptive of her desire, point 3 defined intent, and right there in the middle was the loving crusader.

Tara sent me a beautiful message about her experience that day. Yet I left the one blessed (twice-blessed as my friend Kathryn would say). I was able to give again through my own purposeful desire−allowing me to walk away with heart filled in hope for Tara and all those like her; each to whom I am blessed to be accountable in shared Impact.

Thank you Tara for allowing me a part. Lead us!

See sister post, Release Impact into Skill 1

Encouragement for Your Desire & Intent (A Place to Stand)

What gives your intent uniqueness in a larger purpose is, for you, the essence of desire. This is what my friend Judy might call significance. At her core−of all that is important to her−is the desire to give her energy in enterprises where she both adds value and knows that same value is respected.

A narrow focus, guided by desire, broadens your impact. A place to stand−a focused individual has a method. Albeit often unconscious, she has worked hard to develop, through trial and error, her unique methodology.

But finally you will have both your lever and your place to stand−and from there, you can move your bit of the world, because you are being moved yourself inside a much larger Flow. −Richard Rohr, A Lever and a Place to Stand (2011)

Step through the narrow opening that is your expertise−your place to stand−and find the bounty of broad impact.

Step into the Flow:
1) The Flow demands commitment.
2) The Flow distributes providence.
3) The Flow deposits bounty.

See companion post, Invite Others into the Flow

You, The Stream, and Desire & Intent

I love the concept, the experience, of flow. When in flow, my voice active, I tumble, break, and turn; and where I can, slow into a pool—an ordained location and time to gather consciousness of the journey and full experience before moving once again. -The Stream and Flow, Desire & Intent Chapter, page 56

I began this post just before slowing into a 13 day pool. I was definitely in need of time to gather myself for the next stage of the journey.

Had something dampened desire?

Did I lose focus?

Was it time for a change?

If so, to what would I turn?

Then I was reminded that the turning is after the tumbles and breaks. Let me tell you, the tumbling and breaking is painful at a deep, personal level. As Richard Rohr calls it in his book, Falling Upward, “A necessary suffering.”

Until we are led to the limits of our present game plan, and find it to be insufficient, we will not search out or find the real source, the deep well, or the constantly flowing stream. −Richard Rohr

In times of significant change in my life, commitment was followed by the beautiful flow of providence. I know that my desire and intent have joined internally to create the dance toward the impact of my voice.

In this pool−which may go beyond the 13 days−I’ve been lovingly reminded of another authentic fact: The core of my voice is authentic encouragement of the individual.

Personal Clarity

Prior to Eric and I entering a one-on-one coaching relationship, he had participated in group Desire & Intent sessions I facilitated with his peers and their CEO. Eric is the newest of the officer team and has thoughtfully and intentionally considered his role of leadership in the organization. In our first coaching session, his strength for thoughtful preparation was astounding. I told his CEO how, as I did my usual start-up monologue, Eric sat patiently and listened. The moment I finished Eric shared that he had been thinking in preparation for our coaching work. He began to share and I could barely keep up.

Trusting and acting on his own values, Eric allows purpose to flow with clarity for those he is charged with leading, influencing, and serving. A personal clarity at the level of one’s own values is the origination of authentic communication and connection.

Communication is judged – or perceived – as good when: It flows; it comes forth in a clear context; it is sincere; it is trustworthy.

As with Eric, when a leader’s communication acts are focused in the need of the present, the hearers are more equipped to do their part in filling the gaps necessary for a connection of mutual impact.

Present Purpose

In her presence, simply no one questions her purpose. She is Kathryn Tucker Windham – Storyteller, Selma, AL … and she tells stories; beautiful, rich, true stories. Her stories vividly illustrate the balance she learned from her father and that is experienced in her presence:
Listen
Learn
Laugh
Love

In the spin of that cycle, it is clear that the end is also the beginning spark; Love. Kathryn learned to listen because she accepted the gift of love. As she opened to learning, she applied the knowledge gleaned in support of loving more deeply. Kathryn learned to laugh ‘with’ … and in her presence there is plenty of restoring humor.

How one interpret’s Kathryn’s purpose is as unique as that person. Her purpose is experienced in the moment as she tells us stories.

Purpose is alive and active only in the present. Know this: Your Desire & Intent as a leader is good and is where you find the roots of your authenticity. As you live your purpose with presence, your authenticity grows and is fruitful in the world.

This is both the end and beginning of your love as a leader. And if you have an issue with love in leadership, I challenge you; try it on. Be present with it. Then judge for yourself.

The Danger of Unconscious Competence

Your unique melody of order is the balanced result of desire, intent, and behavior; but only if the melody flows from your authenticity. To safely and productively wade the stream of awareness, you must be conscious and present.

Talk about Trust

The learning continuum illustrates the joint progression of competence and consciousness. With any given point of knowledge we begin in the realm of “I don’t know what I don’t know.” We are unconsciously incompetent. This was me as the facilitator rigged us to climb 45 feet into the trees and then take a walk across a wobbly line to another tree. As I assisted Rob with the safety rope attached to our teen leaders, I watched them ascend one at a time. I became consciously incompetent. I now saw what I did not know; and it was a lot.

I was the last one to perform this act in the trees. There is no way I will claim conscious competence at this tree-top activity, but with practice I could. Can Rob claim unconscious competence? He probably could, but I bet he would not recommend it. My guess is, that while he is in the trees, he is very present with his actions. It would be dangerous to not be present in the heights and unconscious of individual action.

And so it is with our unique, individual Desire & Intent. Our impact as leaders in the 21st Century demands a conscious presence. It is through a conscious presence where we build our competence through practice. The more I work one-on-one with leaders, the more I see the danger in a blind dependence of across-the-board unconscious competence. We must learn to manage personal action in light of what Malcolm Gladwell calls thin slicing balanced against the demand to be present with our behavior.

As you follow through on a commitment to selfless time for personal growth and development, you dismantle the hold of an old confidence. Find those areas of unconscious competence – unique strengths – and one by one bring them back to consciousness; to the present. See what you may need to unlearn and cross reference new learning with what you already do well.

Join the exciting and fulfilling journey of A New Confidence and reduce your exposure to the danger of unconscious competence. Do not wade the stream of awareness when you cannot see the bottom. Step carefully. Step consciously.

The Vehicle for Voice

The principle of commitment is a power intended for your good. From a standpoint of personal impact, it is a power of leadership, influence, and service in this world; powerful impact flowing to others through you. In a conscious new confidence, you unfold this impact moment by moment – one commitment built on another – as you allow the guidance given in your unique Desire & Intent.

Allan and I have only just begun to work together. Already I am excited to see where his own Desire & Intent will take him. The last two years have taken their toll on the headcount in his organization, the flow of business in his territory, and on Allan’s confidence. It will be a personal joy to me to hear Allan express his Desire & Intent, become conscious of his own voice, and experience the connection of the two. Allan will discover Desire & Intent as a vehicle for his voice.

For each of us, the core of our purpose is to flow. That flow is productive as we free desire and own intent; freeing both in our behavior and connecting behavior to results of impact. Owning intent is a mark of balanced maturity; an ability to leverage the power of connective, unfolding commitments.