A Flow to Simplicity through Growth

Failing has been exceptionally empowering to me because it has highlighted for me those things on which I must focus my energy. −Ric Gonzalez, Woo Woo Leadership

Personal growth can at times feel like a lonesome journey. It is important to embrace growth as a journey, and an unfolding process that thankfully never ends. It is only in such acceptance where we may begin to float in the flow that is simplicity.

How is simplicity important to growth?

At the core it is about clarity. There is entirely too much on which to focus our energy. We need the simplicity of clarity to guide the balance of intention and attention.

I hear it all the time in one context or another, “I wish we could return to a simpler time.” Well, I don’t know about we, but you certainly can. A more simple time does not mean a time void of technological advance, political confusion, etc. Simple is what it is, and it is applied one individual at a time−you alone have the access code.

Simplicity is a specifically spoken purpose.Simplicity

Your purpose is encoded deep within you and all efforts to grow must serve this purpose. It’s pretty darn easy, while at the same time one of the hardest things to do, to focus on your purpose.

So, what is the key to growth−and the impact of your purpose? The answer … Love. More specifically, your very unique brand of love.

Know this love. Describe this love. Hold this love close. Give it your energy−for here lies your unique impact.

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Step into the Middle with Love

Remember … those who follow your loving lead depend on the rhythmic frequency of your unique Desire & Intent. Your brand of leadership love resonates in the service of voice freed and intuitively applied. We need your leading love to be directed at us and filtered through an authentic self-love.

Holding the intensity of self-love funds the transformation into your brand of love for us.

Wading to the Middle
My wade to the middle of the stream is not about the exclusion of either bank. Quite the opposite. My stance in the middle is about wading in the confluence of the best from both sides.

Throughout our individual journeys we experience a bit from each bank of the stream of living. Some of this we experience privately and some openly. Many things we accept because of the expectations of others, and some things we approach by choice; these are few and usually on the bank not so normal or comfortable to us.

Once you’ve stood on that other side, you find further confidence in moving to your stance in the middle of the flow. It is such experimentation and navigation that helps wash the fog from the lens that is our core, true self.

Wading in Love
While love is universal, it is not universally defined; meaning, we are each a part of the definition and execution from the stance established by our own brand of love. It is a love uniquely our own but not owned by us. This leading love was given to each of us in the beginning.

It seems the wade to the middle is the process designed for individual discovery and release of our individually branded love.

Step into the Middle with Presence

Purpose finds life in the present and flows through your presence to others. There is spirited validation in being with what is happening in the moments that unfold before us.

Donnie loves golf. He values the engagement and camaraderie associated in the playing. We had documented his one goal and had moved our focus to the first of three strategies of balanced action. At this point I made my observation; “Donnie, I bet when playing a round with someone less experienced, you cannot help but to coach with a few helpful tips.”

Just prior to our session, Donnie had his performance review with his boss, Steve. Steve and Donnie had also recently played a round of golf with a client−a man who seemed a bit self-conscious of his quality of play. In the performance review, Steve recounted Donnie’s observation of what was unfolding with this client, and how Donnie stopped, placed attention on the man, shared a few tips in his focused way of interacting, moved back, and watched as the client relaxed into the flow of the collective game.

Steve had observed an unfolding which, in the sharing of the story, helped Donnie see his Brand in action; and that this very method was valuable to Donnie’s employees.

From this story, Donnie and I documented this strategy:
Acting on my desire for others to understand why something is important, I then coach for a level of empowering understanding by:
1) First helping the individual see the obvious barriers to a better  understanding and good process
2) Creating a dialogue that opens a space for teaching & learning in a collaborative, interactive manner–connecting the “how” of the situation to the vision
3) Empowering the individual to commit and act on what has been learned while creating the accountability and expectations to support success

As I pointed out to Donnie, this strategy of focused interaction was not new. Like with Steve’s story, we simply brought it to a conscious level−to now be used intentionally and consistently.

In the balance of Desire & Intent, others feel care in focused interaction. This is service with purpose.

Step into the Middle of Desire & Intent

The river … From source to sea it is one flow; nowhere does it pile up. … From source to sea, it is one unbroken song of flow−ever changing yet always one. … If only our lives could achieve, or indeed allow, such grace and elegance. −John O’Donohue, Beauty

Think of your leadership Desire & Intent as a flow−a nourishing river for you and others. As a leader you have the flow you need. It is the rhythmic power of 3 that is your answer to the desire and intent question.

Compelled from the foundation of desire, pulled into action by intent, you find yourself in the middle with the accountability of your impact.

If we could but find a rhythm of being which could balance a contemplative grace, a poetry of motion and an accompanying stillness and silence, our pilgrimage through this world would flow in beauty through the most ragged and forsaken heartlands of confusion and dishevelment. −John O’Donohue

Those who follow your loving lead depend on the frequency that is intrinsically felt in the rhythm of your Desire & Intent.

As a leader, it is in this river of practice where you catch all the rich content that is so masterfully blended in the creative tension of the middle; a unique union of your desire and intent … a song of flow.

Letting Go into Love

Love goes beyond mere expectations.

Our workplace needs love. What we need is for the individuals who make up our organizations to step forward in love; eliminate judgment; embrace uniqueness; and, with care, create accountability while behaving with responsibility. Love defined for the leader is to lead others with confidence while leading others to their own confidence. −Wading the Stream of Awareness (Love Chapter)

No doubt the last few years of economic instability have taken a toll on confidence. Even with many years of valuable experience under the belt, many have felt the erosion of fear. It was such a juncture where Richard and I began our work.

As we navigated the dialogue of our early sessions, Richard soon discovered both the power of a core value and the treachery of its overuse. In a difficult and challenging business climate, his deep desire to simply care was limited by a focus on reaction versus the stand of his brand of leadership−a proactive focus on success.

Practice is present attention and behavior applied for the balance of desire, intent, and impact. Richard has realized the power of creating space for others to come to their own connected conclusions. Moved by the love of his work, Richard is freeing his brand of love; leading others to a new confidence. Now free in practice, he establishes presence in how he cares−others receive the bounty of unfettered love in his presence.

Richard is elevating those he leads, influences, and serves beyond mere expectations; by caring about them−his brand of love as a leader. Allow love to be the credible guide it is for each moment−practice in the clarity of what you know is good and right.

See sister post, Release Love into Skill 7

Letting Go into Impact

My desire is for you to embrace the power in who you are. Do you know what it takes to let go into this power; completely?

I cannot make this knowing complete for you. My calling is in simply being with you as you open to the flow−Wading the Stream of Awareness.

Tragically, and all too common, people become trapped seeking soul validation in a system. No matter what system that may be, you are accountable in your freedom. To be free is a wholeness−encompassing mind, heart, soul, and spirit. There is freedom indeed in letting go; letting go into your impact.

Increasingly I am feeling−in my whole being−the accountability I hold for those younger than I; those who will courageously lead us forward. Tara is one such leader.

We were brainstorming an event for women in leadership. Because of deep, implanted desire, I couldn’t help but share my passion about Desire & Intent. I asked Tara the desire and intent question.  Previously, we had talked about purpose where she declared herself a crusader. I sorted her 3 responses. Point 1 was descriptive of her desire, point 3 defined intent, and right there in the middle was the loving crusader.

Tara sent me a beautiful message about her experience that day. Yet I left the one blessed (twice-blessed as my friend Kathryn would say). I was able to give again through my own purposeful desire−allowing me to walk away with heart filled in hope for Tara and all those like her; each to whom I am blessed to be accountable in shared Impact.

Thank you Tara for allowing me a part. Lead us!

See sister post, Release Impact into Skill 1

Encouragement for Your Love (Building a Story with You)

I am convinced of the impossibility of providing encouragement to another if one does not hold the deep abundance of love inside. This focus of self-love appropriates the transformation into your brand of leadership love.

If you have read this far in my writings, you know my bold claim in the power of conscious love in one’s work. Yes, I firmly hold as truth that the 21st Century belongs to the Aware, Focused, and Loving leader. It is in this rhythm of 3 that your desire joins with intent and moves your brand of love into the flow of the larger story.

We want to build a story with you. In the union of story, it is imperative to learn to hold the tension in the middle stand that is your focus−where your desire joins with your intent and where you find your soul captured by the flow.

The loving part of my own Desire & Intent is that you lovingly lead others to their own authentic confidence. Invite us to build the story with you.

To build the story, encourage us:
1) To embrace complexity.
2) To honor individual uniqueness.
3) To join you in the Flow.

The collaboration in the telling of the story is animated as we love the flow, love the person, and love the story.

See companion post, Encourage Us